Courtship, Dating, Marriage and the Unbeliever

Since we are on the topic of dating and the like, I thought I'd repost Dan Phillips excellent post on dating unbelievers: "Dating: When words and choices clash".
Here's a little excerpt of Dan's post:

"Would you date a child molestor? Oh, of course not. Instant deal-killer. Thief, murderer? No and no. Rapist? Never. Those are really bad things.

But not as bad as being an enemy of God (Proverbs 15:9; Ephesians 2:3)? I think we have some seriously skewed priorities.

See, if you are in a dating relationship with someone who doesn’t love Christ, you’ve already said the Christ-issue isn’t the issue to you. Her looks, his job, the way she treats you, his sense of humor - whatever; these things matter more to you than Christ does.

You want this person to believe that he is a sinner, under God’s wrath, and deserving His judgment. You want him to know that his righteous deeds are as filthy rags, that everything he can produce is not enough for God.

But you’ve already communicated, by your choice, that what he has is enough for you. That you and he share enough values, goals, aspirations, and affections to create (or even consider) an exclusive and intimate relationship.

See? You’ve already dealt a death-blow to your own credibility. You really might as well stop talking. Your priorities, your choices, have drowned out your words (cf. the principle of Titus 1:16)."

And

Would you consider marrying someone who never, ever washed his body? Yuck! No way, right? What if (s)he never, ever had his heart and conscience washed (Hebrews 9:14; 10:22)? Evidently yes? Hmm.

Would you consider marrying someone who never listened to a word you said? No way. What if (s)he never listened to a word God said (Proverbs 28:4, 9; Romans 10:17)? Evidently yes?

This is an important issue and one that needs to be taught more often than not, more so in these days.